Thank you everyone for the heartfelt condolences and kind wishes. I am very glad that Sowmya had such wonderful friends in her blog world who respected her a lot. I am also grateful to the others who knew very less about her but still sent their condolences as a mark of respect for her memories. Thank you all.
I am now discussing with my family on whether to post the chain of events which lead to her untimely demise. She would have lived for a longer period if not for the doctors carelessness in administering the treatment.
There are 2 trains of thoughts running here.
1. Some feel that the causes be mentioned since somebody else could benefit out of it. They can also question the all knowing doctors on their treatment methods and not accept blindly. (We have questioned and proposed the latest lines of treatment through the best doctors from around the world and even then, there has been a lapse in methodology of treatment in the Indian counterpart)
2. Others feel that now she is no more, let not her "fight" be known. Except for the family and a few good friends, no one else knows, and let it be the same. Let the world not know the pain and suffering she underwent and just remember her as they knew her as happy memories.
Still discussing...
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First time here and jltchumma: Can't help my tears as I read this. Just my silence to offer.
I hope you and your family have arrived at a decision soon.
Whatever one tries to write here will sound empty. I don't know why God needs such spirited and fighters in his world.We need them here more.
Hi.
Came from suman's blog when he had posted about doctors. I had been to her blog once quiet a long time. Please accept my condolonces.
About your current predicament as to reveal her struggle or not, you would be interested in reading the case of a Jason Maude. A case of medical mis-diagnosis and negligence.
I think you should do something for your sister's memory and something constructive should happen out of this.
Once again praying that you get the strength in these trying times.
Regards,
vasu
Lost-n-Found,
Thanks for being discrete. My sister did not like that word and neither do the rest of the family. The word is most of the time portrayed negatively by the media and thus the dislike. My dad wants to take it out with the hospital first for the negligence and he has composed a wonderful letter which is excellent in terms of information. If he permits me to use it, I shall publish the same.
Thank you everybody (almost all) for being discrete.
And thank you Vasu for the neat link, it looks mighty useful, for others also. A ray of light I should say! Wish I had the opps to see it earlier on ! Would have saved my sister.
Firstly let me share my sincere condolences. I didn't know Sowmya but that has not prevented the tears.
While it is true that many doctors have the heaven-may-care attitude, most don't. I lost my sister to a freak accident and inspite of taking her to the emergency room in less than 10mins they could not save her. Our first reaction was same as yours - anger. That so well qualified doctors could let us down by their carelessness or negligence. And we wanted to fight. Sue.
But we later realised from a medico friend that the doctors had done their best. They are after all not God.
It may be quite different in your case, I agree. But let us not judge Doctors unfavourably. Please.
Ram
Thanks Harry...
lost-n-found
sapphire101@hotmail.com
I knew about this site's existance for a long time and maybe I should have blogged about it...
I wish I had interracted with you before.
anyway, I am sure you would do your bit to help others.
Keep your spirits up.
vasu
Harry, my deepest condolences to you and your family. Like everyone, Sowmya was a blog-friend of mine. I have never met her, but still I have the feeling of losing a little sister.
This is something very very personal which only you and your family can see reason for the decision you finally arrive at.
But I feel narrating her story and the callousness of the Doctors' would never undo the kind of dignified life she lived and in fact would only do greater honour to her by the lessons that her life history would give, to anybody approaching a medical consultant in India.
Her selfless life was made all for others. Your decision can make her untimely death too a great lesson to many more.
Hi Harry, I was searching for chennai on the net and the engine brought me here. I am truly sorry for your sister sudden departure. May her soul rest in peace and may peace be with your family and her husband also. I am relocating to Chennai soon, if you don't mind i wish to get some information about chennai before we move. thanks a lot.
I am so sorry for your loss. Sowmya was my classmate in Vidya Mandir. I can understand your terrible pain.
I am really sorry to hear about your sister. A classmate of mine from Pilani with the same name passed away a few months earlier. I am not sure if you are her brother. But more importantly, please accept my condolences. I cannot tell you how sad I am to read your blog. Take care,
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